Climb. Reach. Achieve

If you've never failed, you've never lived

2012-01-05T10:00:00.000-05:00

Take risks. Go!

Take a Detour

2011-10-30T18:01:00.000-04:00

At some point in our lives I'm sure we have all felt the need to belong, the need for approval from others, the need to be part of the cool crowd. I've felt this way before but learned early on that it is necessary to step away from the crowd, to not be easily influenced by others and to not fall prey to peer pressure. This was not an easy thing for me to accomplish while growing up. However, as a got older, became more mature and had a greater understanding and awareness of self I realized that I didn't need anyone's approval or praise. I realized that sometimes it can be more rewarding taking the less commonly traveled route.

Dare to be different

Reverse Your Thinking

2011-09-29T08:30:00.000-04:00

There is Hope. I am NOT from a lost generation.

Be Patient, Your Reward Is On It's Way

2011-09-22T08:00:00.000-04:00

Ever so often it happens; you are discouraged as you feel like the reward, or lack thereof, does not correlate to the amount of effort you've placed into doing something, completing a certain task, etc You get impatient and you want things to happen right away. After all you've put the hard work in and they say you reap what you sow right?
Sometimes we just need a reminder that, although we may be doing everything right, everything we're supposed to do, things don't always happen when or how we want it to. We must give things time, have patience, nurture that which you are working on and sit back and wait for the reward. I was certainly reminded of that with the below video:

Breakaway

2011-08-09T10:00:00.000-04:00

Don't falter on your dreams and aspirations. Develop the courage to spread your wings.
Make a wish, take a chance, make a change and...breakaway

Summertime, Martini and all

2011-07-26T10:00:00.001-04:00

Summer is upon us! This is most evident with the heat wave that most of the country experienced last week. I overheard a few comments where people were calling for the winter. I chuckled when I heard those comments because these are the same individuals that echo similar sentiments during the winter, especially when parts of the country is bombarded with snow. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter what mother nature throws at us it is embedded in people's DNA to complain. Mother nature has been kind to us, especially in the United States. Have we paid attention to the wrought that mother nature imposed on the people in Asia, the Caribbean and the Middle East over the last 3 years?
It's summertime people... Kick back, sip a Martini by the pool or the beach and enjoy the best of summer. Afterall, isn't this all part of summer before some of us go back into the cloaks of winter?

Change Your Words...

2011-07-06T10:00:00.001-04:00

Don't sweat the small stuff, give energy to what is relevant, be thankful for what you have and...say something kind today. A little dose of inspiration:

Hunger for Validation

2011-06-29T10:00:00.007-04:00

Human beings are always seeking the approval of others. A good example: On Facebook and Twitter people are constantly posting updates of their lives. Do they ever really wonder whether others care about what they are doing? It is no longer appealing to do something and let it be. In this day and age of social applications we have allowed ourselves to be a walking billboard. Can we do something and keep it to ourselves without "Tweeting" or posting it on Facebook? Can we do something without attempting to seek the approval of others? If we baked a cake we have to tweet about how good the cake looked and tasted. If we bought a new dress we have to take a picture of it and post it on Facebook.

If after attempting to tell others how great a cook you are and no one responds, that doesn't mean that your cake wasn't delicious. If after modeling your new dress and the response was silently deafening, don't allow your ego to be bruised. We have to step away from the impulsive approval seeking and recognize that you are worth more than a mere "Like" on Facebook, or an approval from someone. In this age of an insatiable hunger for validation, develop the art of self esteem in yourself and you would not have to worry about overly pleasing anyone, nor seeking approval for your actions. Live and enjoy life the way it was meant to be, rather than a wait for a click or a nod.

Outlook

2011-06-23T08:00:00.002-04:00

I felt a little down yesterday. Sometimes we want things that are at the time out of reach, we set goals and make plans which, due to circumstances we may not necessarily be able to implement. When this happens it's easy for us to fall into a funk of sorts. It weighs heavily on us and becomes almost all you think about. It becomes a distraction.

Even though things may not happen when we want it to or how we want it to, we have to remember to be patient and be happy and appreciative for what we do have at this point in time.

After a little reflection I came to the conclusion that:

“The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.”

Happy Thursday!!

It's OK to say NO!

2011-06-08T09:00:00.003-04:00

...without feeling guilty

A simple 'no' can sometimes be the most difficult thing to say. We too often tend to put everyone's needs in front of our own, we slowly put ourselves on the back burner and become this sort of "people pleaser."

It's now time to say NO to being a people pleaser and YES to moving closer to our own priorities, without feeling guilty about it.

The key is figuring out when and how to say no. There are different ways to go about doing this: 'I can't make it', 'that doesn't work for me', I'd rather stay in' or simply 'no, thank you.' There is no need for an explanation either because, frankly, it is no one's business why you choose to decline.

Saying no elicits a feeling of liberation, and the benefits and freedom gained is absolutely great! In the end you will be spending less time at things you'd rather not do with people you'd rather not be around at places you'd rather not be.

"Saying no without guilt requires you to think about what you stand for. As you learn to eliminate unwanted obligations from your life, you are making room for yourself which is just as important as making room for others. Get over the need to be nice. Stop worrying about disappointing others and let go of the sense of importance you get from being indispensable." ~ Anisa Lewis at www.examiner.com

Success Comes in Cans

2011-05-25T08:00:00.002-04:00

Drink Up!

The Face of Insecurity

2011-05-20T19:21:00.000-04:00

Some people seem to have everything in order - well spoken,well dressed, always the center of attraction, and appear confident. On the other hand, there are others whose overt appearance may lack the same order as the former - bland, introvert, and the perceived lack of confidence. If one is to ask, of the two individuals described, which one appears to have everything going for them? Most people will think that the first person described have the edge. However, most times they are wrong. You see, most people put up a front in order to be accepted. It is evident by observing their behavior. They are always seeking the approval of others; they are always bragging about something that they have done; and finally, they always seem to want to have the last word in. If you're not looking closely and paying attention to such a person, you may be deceived into thinking they have it all together. Oh, you can be so wrong!

Insecurity has many faces and can manifest itself in many different ways but there are tell-tale signs, if you look closely enough you'll realize that the ones who seem to have it all together are often times the ones who are most empty. The overt traits displayed sometimes are done so to mask the void that they're hiding. If you pay close attention to such a person, you would realize that their words and actions are incongruent, to say the least. What one sees as confidence as a result of the spoken word may be just an image of a person crying from the inside out. Don't be fooled; pay close attention and remember "Silence is the symphony of the voice," and one need not be shallow in order to be effective.

He who is humble is confident and wise. He who brags is insecure and lacking. ~ Lisa Edmondson

Dont Wait on Your Dream, Act On it

2011-04-21T09:00:00.001-04:00

How many times have we been told to pursue what we love and not what would give us the most money? How many of us believe that we should pursue our dreams and not the money that we can make from the things that we do? If only as human we recognize that the gift of life resides in us diligently pursuing our dreams rather than waiting on it. Rather than acting on our dreams the average person waits on it by the habits that they engage in on a daily basis. For example some people religiously purchase lottery tickets almost daily in anticipation of striking it rich. This action is called getting something for nothing. While the probability of winning can occur, the chances of that dream becoming a reality is almost slim to none. The odds are 1 to 1,000,000. However, if the average person direct their attention to acting on their dreams religiously on a daily basis,and develop a plan by which they will accomplish their goal, then the probability of accomplishing their goals are 1 out of 5. So the next time you dip into your pocket to purchase that lottery ticket (if you do so religiously) you can direct your efforts more so toward diligently acting on your dream rather than waiting on it to happen. The odds of striking it rich by acting on your dreams is priceless.

When Life Throws Dirt At You

2011-04-14T09:00:00.000-04:00

Dissatisfied with yourself, Hmm!

2011-04-03T09:00:00.000-04:00

Are you dissatisfied with the position that you are in at the moment? What are you doing about it? If you choose to do nothing, then don't complain. If you choose to do something about it, then you are on the right track.
Quite often people are dissatisfied with the direction of their lives, but they refuse to act on it. Rather, they may not realize it, but they may be allowing their creativity to be constipated. Instead, on this blog I propose the following: (a) Be strategic and deliberate in all actions; (b) Aim at something and not nothing; minimize on efforts that are misguided; (c) Don't employ a do nothing and expect everything attitude; and (d) Be tenacious and relentless in order to overcome adversity and to prevail. I do believe that being proactive in one's life, any negative situation can be transformed into a positive one. Be proactive and take more ownership of your responsibilities and have fun while doing so. Or, as the NIKE tagline says, "life is fun, just do it."

Don't Worry

2011-03-30T13:59:00.000-04:00

We spend a lot of time worrying sometimes about things that we cannot control. At times we may not be able to help it, but we must understand that worrying doesn't do anything for us; it doesn't make the situation any better, nor does it take away the pain. We have to learn to be aware of this action so that we can counteract it with positive energy. It is important to internalize each situation and take a closer look at the circumstances surrounding the problem. It is equally important to look for solutions rather than sit on the problem. Finally, it is equally important to form a positive view and approach each issue as such.
In life we are not expecting everything to be perfect; for, situations do arise. When they do, we must realize that worrying is a waste of time! It never robs tomorrow of it's sorrow, it only saps today of it's joy.

Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't take you anywhere ~ Anonymous

Build Your Empire

2011-03-23T09:00:00.000-04:00

A Guest Post by: Just Become

The important thing to concentrate on while attempting to succeed is to see the big picture. It takes time to accomplish. While you are waiting and seeking out success remember that patience and hard work will pull you through.

Mastery isn’t accomplished overnight. You could obtain success quickly, but if the fruits of your labor aren’t sound then be prepared to have a short lived moment under the spotlight. You are not just attempting to obtain your hopes and dreams; you are building an empire for your hopes and dreams. Every task you complete on your journey will not only bring you closer to success, it will also teach and mold you. The teaching and molding will prepare you mentally. This will prepare your mind and spirit to be able to embrace your accomplishments in a way that will make them last.

If you were able to sit on top of the world without experience, doubt and a lack of knowledge would certainly cause destruction. There are rare success stories where hard work seems to be of no consequence; however (Read more...)

Technology - villain or hero

2011-03-20T11:01:00.000-04:00

Maybe I'm too young to understand, but when I hear my parents speak of "back in the old days," how things were different it makes me really wonder what life was like. Back then ( in the 70's) there were no cell phones, mainly land-lines, no internet, facebook, twitter, and texting, and yet they were able to function. I seldom wonder what life was like "back in the old days." In an era of cell phones, internet, twitter, texting, and facebook, as a society we've become so dependent on these tools that if we are to do without them for a half-day most of us will function like an addict wanting a "fix." This may sound funny, but most of us haven't realized how we've allowed social networking tools to be so closely interwoven into our DNA. Is this a good or bad thing? I cannot say. However, what I do know is that while we use these tools as a means of entertainment, socializing, or for mere communication, we should be cognizant as we use them and not allow ourselves to become totally "lost," while using them. Is this just me, or are we as a society too entrapped with the use of technological tools that it's changing our mental state and interpersonal relations?
Food for thought...

For Strength

2011-03-15T06:00:00.000-04:00

Words cannot express the deep sorrow felt when seeing the 03.11.11 tsunami of Japan unfold.

In the midst of this great tragedy, I mourn for the people of Japan, the lives lost and the families disheveled. I pray that they find the strength to carry on knowing that strength is born in the deep silence of long suffering; not amid joy.

Stop Waiting For Circumstances To Change Your Life

2011-03-03T10:00:00.001-05:00

A few days ago i began perusing through one of T.D.Jake's book "Reposition Yourself- Living Life Without Limits," and I kept asking myself what does the term 'success' mean to the average person? Success as was discussed on this blog means different things to different people. However, to an onlooker of someone successful, the endpoint or tangibles is what they see. How many times do an onlooker of a successful person ask themselves " what did it take for that person to be successful?" I guess that may be irrelevant, especially in this microwave society that we are living in.
As we look around, anyone that is successful will, for the most part let you know that they've failed many times over before they attain their success. They will also inform the onlooker that SACRIFICES and being CONSISTENT, are two main attributes that a person must employ in order to be successful. One must develop a prize fighter mentality and rid oneself of apathy and mediocrity.
So, the next time you come across someone who is successful, and you still are not, just ask yourself have I rid myself of mediocrity and apathy? Do I have the prize fighter mentality running through my veins? Am I making the necessary SACRIFICES in order for me to be successful? If not, why aren't you?

Great People vs. Mediocre Minds

2011-02-23T07:33:00.000-05:00

If you have a big dream, soon it will be challenged. Great people always receive violent opposition from mediocre minds!

Very sad, but true. Some of us tend to be selfish in our ways; wanting success for self but never for anyone else. This tendency often leads to envy and jealousy toward the successor. I'm sure we've all experienced this at some point or another. But why is this the case? The answer is actually quite simple. People tend to always see the end results, the fruits of someone's labor but never what the person has/had to endure to get to where he/she is at present. I do believe that if people are to conduct a personal introspection of their lives and reassess themselves in the context of what they're trying to achieve for themselves, it will give them a perspective on what others are enduring to achieve their goals. Quite often rather than approaching a person and conversing with them, we are quick to talk about them. Rather, great minds will complement a person if they've found that that person is doing something great. At the same time, they may even choose to emulate in some ways what that person has done, or is doing. This type of reaction/action tends to foster harmonious relationships, and in some cases serve as a motivating factor for others to step up their game. There is enough success around for everyone to get their piece of the pie. Rather than expend more energy talking negatively about others and what they're doing, approach that person if you can and tell them how much you appreciate what they're doing. This can often lead to the nurturing of another great mind, that if left alone can wander into counterproductive negative behavior rather than positive behavior. We are our brothers and sisters keeper.. Or, as a great American poet once sagaciously said, "no man is an island." I believe this to be true because there is always something to learn from another which can help to enhance what is already done, while at the same time nurturing a great mind, and who knows a potential life changing relationship with another person.

Interpersonal Relations

2011-02-14T10:00:00.001-05:00

While we may have peeled back the layers and better understand ourselves, and motivation, it is equally important for us to be honest with ourselves in our interpersonal relations with others. While to some interpersonal relations may not be a high priority, I do believe that better understanding and making a concerted effort to improve upon it is of paramount importance in our overall growth and development.
As human beings, we want what's best for ourselves and want to be treated with utmost respect at all times; hence, it is of equal importance for us to treat others in the same manner. In other words, the degree of interpersonal competence between individuals can go a very long way in this journey that is called life.
To recognize and acknowledge the importance of interpersonal relations in our lives, we must be honest with ourselves and be willing to employ what I call the triumvirate of better relations: carefully listen, assess information, and offer solutions to problems; rather than hearing, criticizing without solutions and misrepresenting. If we are to truly grow individually and collectively, it becomes evident that improving on interpersonal relations is a must for us.

Turn Your Back On Your Negative thoughts

2011-02-06T10:00:00.000-05:00

There is little difference between people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude, the big difference is if it's positive or negative. ~ W. Clement Stone.

I find that many people around me these days are just so negative. I'm sure you know a few too. You know, the ones that always look at the worst side of a situation, have nothing good to say about other people, take the opposing view in a positive conversion, complain about the inequities of life...the ones that seem to be just plain bitter.
I'm not saying that sometimes I don't fall off the positive/optimistic band wagon. However, I do recognize when this happens.

The first step to reconciling with yourself as a means of improving, is to simply rid oneself of negative thinking. Many of us may not realize, but our negative thinking about what happens in our lives stains our mind and hinder our progress. We are far from perfect and negative thinking or action towards a situation is almost inevitable, but it is always important to recognize when this happens and begin by raising an awareness with self and acting on that awareness. When I find myself harboring a negative thought; the moment I realize the mode that I am in, I stop myself and refocus my energies into more positive thoughts. It's really not that difficult. Try it!

Critical Thinking

2011-01-29T08:00:00.000-05:00

Is your thinking uninformed, distorted or bias? Do you realize that the quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts? Well, if it is, then developing a systematic way to analyze thoughts and evaluating outcomes is a trait that must be cultivated. The cultivation of that trait is called critical thinking. Critical thinking in a nutshell is a self-conscious, corrective thinking process. It requires discipline and a strong passion for figuring out solutions to problems, while improving on communication. Critical thinking requires asking essential questions and assessing information. Critical thinking involves developing well thought out solutions that relies more on objective, rather than egocentric thinking. Critical thinking can affect your quality of life; so, if you're interested in developing intellectual traits, then it's important for you to recognize that relevance, significance, depth, clarity, and accuracy are five standards that must be routinely applied to one's sense of reasoning if one is to become a critical thinker.

Marinate on that.

Words

2011-01-19T11:00:00.000-05:00

If only I can take back what I have said because I really did not mean it. How often have we said things that we have regretted? Words are powerful! Words can be viral! Words can take on a life of its' own if we are not careful. It is important that we become more responsible with the words that emanate from our mouths. It's important that we properly commission ourselves so that we continually use the right words in our interpersonal relations with other. Remember, as you use words you have to live by what you say. So, the next time that you open your mouth to speak, just allow yourself to think before you do so. You are what you speak! make your world better by sharing and speaking positively rather than doing so with negative words or actions.

Before you speak, think - Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence? ~ Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Peel back the Layers Part II

2011-01-14T09:00:00.001-05:00

In Part I of this post the question raised was "who am I?" This question was posed because I believe that if everyone is to truly dig deep within their souls and peel back the layers that continue to mask and inhibit them, then their true purpose in this life can be manifested.
How often do people even think that there is an I am? How often do we realize that there is a calling for each of us? While we may be pursuing what we perceive to be "our goals," who is to say the goals that you are pursuing is really what you are called/placed on this earth to do? Before you go any further, take some time to find yourself and let the true you reveal itself through the layers that you may not even realize exist; hence, you may better understand yourself not merely by a name, a title, or by a profession, but by who you really are from the inside out; because who you really are is a beautiful entity waiting to be discovered by you.

Protect Your Dream

2011-01-07T10:00:00.001-05:00

Greatness exists in all of us!

Business As Usual? I Think Not.

2011-01-03T14:29:00.001-05:00

The essence of life is change. With change comes growth. At every turn of a new year we find ourselves reflecting on the year just passed. We set goals and find ways in which to make the new one better, popularly known as resolutions. Though we may not always stick to them it is a healthy way to move forward. It serves as a platform for growth and self improvement.

As life moves forward we must continue to grow ourselves. We cannot stand in the same place conducting business as usual. We have to move on up. This goes for every situation in life. If it's a job, do better and aim to be promoted. If it's a weight-loss regimen, put some more effort into it or find another way if the current way isn't very rewarding. If it's school, keep moving forward and upward, ex: BS to MS to PhD/MD/JD/DDS, etc.
It's like Benjamin Franklin once said, without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement and success have no meaning. Let's aim to put meaning to these words. Let's break out of the habit of business as usual. It's a new year, let's gain some new perspective.

Don't wait for everything to be just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful. ~Mark V. Hansen

New Year, New Perspective

2010-12-30T11:00:00.000-05:00

As the turn of a new year is once again upon us, it is again that time when we reflect on the year just passed, set new goals and gain new perspective for the new.

Keep this in mind:

H appiness depends upon your outlook on life.

A ttitude is just as important as ability.

P assion. Find yours this year!

P ositive thoughts make everything easier.

Y ou are unique, with special gifts, use them.

N ew beginnings with a new year.

E nthusiasm is a true secret of success.

W ishes, may they turn into goals.

Y ears go by too quickly, enjoy them.

E nergy, may you have lots.

A ppreciation of life, don't take it for granted.

R elax. Take time to relax this coming year.

May you find happiness, hope and good fortune for the upcoming year. Happy 2011!

Coach Your Mind

2010-12-27T11:00:00.004-05:00

Who or what Inspires you? It is truly a blessing when you can find something/someone who, despite the challenging moments, is able to uplift you and have you seeing things in a new light. Inspiration comes in various forms. It could be a memory, a thought, a photograph, hearing someone's voice, reading an inspiring story...

Today, I would like to give the Great Inspirer Award to someone who is an inspiration to me - a fellow blogger, Dane Gingrich at Coach Your Mind.

Thanks for being such an inspiration. Continue to do what you do.

Part 3 - Woman to Woman

2010-12-23T11:00:00.000-05:00

Warning: The video below contains graphic imagery. Viewer discretion is advised.

Seen above is the violence inflicted on women by their male counterparts in many parts of the world everyday. After seeing the above video I was left heartbroken. It is disheartening to see the unjust treatment that some of our women face. Why is it that women continue to suffer these brutal attacks? Why does it seem like nothing is being done to help these women?
If you re-call in a previous post, I recommended that my viewers read the book 'Half The Sky'. It highlights some of these very issues that women face all around the world, but incorporates different organizations and causes that we all can get involved in and become a part of the solution to do what ever we can to help. Going up against the greatest barrier to emancipation of women, are the arcane laws, coupled with the misogynistic culture that permeates the landscape of their respective countries. Despite such a task, as human beings, we must remain vigilant to raise awareness whenever the opportunity presents itself. While women here in the US may not be faced with such brutal arcane systems, we do have our issues here in the US that we must overcome as well. It is my belief that if everyone, male and female, continue to do their part to stamp out injustice of women over the world , this world will be a much better place.

Wise Up

2010-12-16T11:09:00.001-05:00

Before you speak, listen

Before you write, think

Before you spend, earn

Before you invest, investigate

Before you criticize, wait

Before you pray, forgive

Before you quit, try

Before you retire, save

Before you die, give

~William Arthur Ward

Stay tuned for Part 3 - Woman to Woman

Part 2- Woman to Woman

2010-12-07T10:00:00.004-05:00

In my last posting I informed everyone that I will do a three part series on the plea of Afghanistanian women. In part two of this series I want to highlight three women who all came from different backgrounds. The first of the three is a young girl by the name of Fariba. Young Fariba took a bottle of petrol and set herself on fire. It is estimated that over 2,300 young girls or women attempt suicide each year as a way to escape domestic violence from their abusive partners, or family members. It is unclear why young Fariba doused herself with petrol and lit herself on fire as a means of committing suicide; however, if one life can be saved from the shame and guilt felt by survivors who attempted suicide, then, it’s worth fighting for.

Fariba

The next person I want to highlight is Bibi. Bibi got married to her husband at age 12. She said that she was beaten by her husband from the day she was married. Having enough of his beatings, Bibi decided to run away a few years ago, taking refuge with her neighbor. To her chagrin, when he found her, not only was she badly beaten, but he disfigured her by cutting off her nose, ears, and hair. The most galling part of her ordeal was that a group of men held her down while her misogynistic husband maimed her. Often in cases like this women are voiceless and helpless. Fortunately for Bibi, she came to the US a few months ago at age 20, to have reconstructive surgery to her face and ears.

Bibi

Finally, I want to draw attention to Maida-Khal’s plea. Maida-Khal is currently in prison for what authorities call immoral behavior. Maida-Khal was 12 years old when she was forced into a marriage with a 70 year old paralyzed man. She was forced to carry this man whenever she was going out. At times she refused to carry him because he was so heavy. As a result her husband’s brothers constantly beat her. Four years ago at 18 years old, she asked for a divorce; as a result, she was imprisoned on the grounds of a ‘moral crime.’ A few months ago, at age 22, she was released from prison, but yet, she cannot leave because in order for her to leave, she must have a ‘mahram,’ (a male guardian). Could you imagine someone not allowed to leave prison because a man cannot vouch for them? How insane?

Maida-Khal

The stories that I highlighted in this posting of Fariba, Bib, and Maida-Khal are just the tip of the iceberg. What these individuals have in common is that they are women living in a misogynistic society. How many more Bibi’s Fariba’s and Maida-Khal’s are out there? How many sisters in the US are silently suffering at the hands of their abusive husbands? I am asking you to stand up for the rights of these young women. In my next posting I will offer up some suggestions as to how we can use every possible social network to raise awareness to these innocent young women.

Be Inspired!

*Pictures taken from National Geographic*

Woman to Woman

2010-11-30T10:00:00.002-05:00

My heart bled as I read the stories of the inhumane treatment of Afghan women in the National Geographic last week. The content was such an eye opener that I decided that, over the course of the next two weeks I want to take the opportunity to highlight the plea of women in that part of the world; they have been torn with fighting and wars over the past 25 years.

Women in this war torn country of Afghanistan are looked upon as chattel, by the male dominated authoritarian(Pashtun) Society, where they are forever under the constrainsts of poverty, lack of education, and tribalism. They are subjected to abusive husbands; forced into marriages in some instances with men who could be old as their grandfathers or young as boys in junior high school. They are often left voiceless, and if they complain or attempt to run away, they can be killed, imprisoned, terrorized into submission, or maimed, as has been happening over the years. This is no way that any person should be treated. As a woman, it pains me to realize that this type of barbaric treatment is still allowed to happen in this world. I feel obligated as a woman to raise awareness to my sisters a world away.

I invite all readers to share this on their blogs, or with their friends. This type of barbaric, inhumane treatment of women needs to stop.
In the next two weeks I will highlight some of the challenges these women undergo, while proposing a few solutions of my own to raise awareness on such an important issue.

Be Inspired....

The Optimistic Aproach

2010-11-23T10:00:00.004-05:00

Between the Optimist and the Pessimist the the difference is droll; the optimist sees the doughnut, the pessimist sees the hole. ~Oscar Wilde

How easy it is for us to become depressed if something that we desire does not manifest itself in the manner that we anticipate? After diligently preparing for an examination and failing, we sometimes begin to question our abilities. After giving the best possible answers at an interview and still not receiving the call that you're the chosen one, may instill a sense of helplessness and insecurity which may lead you to think that you're not as good as the chosen one. Nothing can be further from the truth. While defeatism in particular circumstances is unavoidable, it should not be an acceptable acquired trait. Instead, one needs to fight back with optimism. Recalibrate and re-execute! Maybe you assiduously studied, but you were unable to apply the concepts appropriately, or, you may not have been a good fit for the job in which you applied; however, the next time you're faced with a drawback, don't harp on it and allow it to become a trait, instead, fight back with optimism. Don't forget, every set back is a set up for a come back.

TIME

2010-11-16T10:00:00.002-05:00

Time as a metaphor is used quite often by the everyday person without them even realizing. "Time is money," we shouldn't waste time, " time is of the essence," and the likes. How often do we take TIME to look at ourselves in the context of our lives? If we had to do life over again I am quite sure that with our experiences we would make better choices, work harder, aim higher, and relinquish some of our "friendships" to name a few. Nevertheless, since we cannot go back in TIME, it is important for us to live what's left of our life to the fullest. Today we have an opportunity to redefine ourselves and make the best use of our TIME. Now is not the TIME for wondering what could and should be done. Now is your TIME to forge ahead and do what you've been thinking about and not mustering the mental fortitude to do it. Go make your day, your week, your month, your year, your life, what you always wanted all along, but never had the TIME to do it. Are you ready to change the hands of TIME?

I can succeed if...

2010-11-09T10:00:00.000-05:00

Mantra of the week:

I can succeed if I know exactly what I want.

I can succeed if I apply myself some more.

I can succeed if I spend more time paying attention to what is required of me, rather than what is required of others.

I can succeed if I am willing to make sacrifices.

I can succeed if I know how to ask the right questions.

I can succeed if there's an insatiable thirst and hunger for success in my life.

Peel Back the Layers

2010-11-02T01:11:00.000-04:00

I have one question for you, who are you?

(Think about that for a minute...)

A lot of us have a tendency to label ourselves. I bet your answers were:
1. I am [your name]
2. I am [your social status, profession]
3. I am [your thoughts]
4. I am [your life experiences]
5. I am [your soul or spirit]

I cannot answer this question for you as this is a matter of what you believe; but if you stop for a moment and peel back the layers of roles and labels that you use to define yourself then what's left? The body? yes, but are you merely just a body? Of course not. Some may argue "I think, therefore I am." But what does that mean? You think, yes because you have a mind - you have a mind because you have a brain but isn't thinking and therefore the mind just a function of the brain which is just a part of the body?

Once you begin to peel back all these layers, only then will you find the true you. You will be humbled.

So if you ask me, Who Am I?
I am my higher self, I am.

What Do You Do When You Don't Know What To Do?

2010-10-24T10:00:00.002-04:00

You have been in this situation before, knowing not what to do. What do you do then? Some of us may get angry, some cry, some just give up.

What do I do?

I Pray

Life is difficult. It is a challenging journey whether or not God is apart of it. Those of us who invite God on this adventure trust and believe that whenever bad things happen we can count on him to work on our behalf.... and he does.

God is on our side, he never gives us more than we can bear. If whenever you're in a bind or in a position where you just don't know what to do, give him a chance and offer up a word of prayer. Talk to God and he might just talk back to you.

Prayer is not asking, it is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart ~Mahatma Ghandi

If you want happiness, then do this......

2010-10-20T10:00:00.001-04:00

Think Big

Embark on Positives

Invoke Excellence

Respect Yourself

Embark on new Ideas

Inspire Others

Exude peace and tranquility in your interpersonal Communique

Recognize your inner Strength

Expect and always strive for Creativity

Look deep within your Soul

Live life to the Fullest
AND

Enjoy all that you Do

We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of what we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have ~ frederick Keonig

The Challenge

2010-10-13T10:00:00.000-04:00

Do you remember the moment when you opened up that envelope and got good news about a dream job that you craved, a promotion, or acceptance into a school of choice? What was that feeling like? Was it one of great excitement? Now, think of the work that it took to get you to that point. In some instances you may have toiled assiduously up to the point when you opened that envelope and got the good news. Well, my friends, getting the good news about a job, a promotion, or getting into a school of choice is only the beginning.

As you begin your new job, new position, or new school, the real challenge becomes keeping your dream job, position, or staying in school. This may sound easy, but, you must continue to remind yourself of why you are where you are at that point in your life. In addition, you have to ask yourself what it will take for you to get promoted or complete your course of study in school. Quite often, as human beings we expect perfection. We expect everything to fall in place the way in which we want it. However, in the real world things may not necessarily pan out the way in which we want it to be, when we want it to be. At times we may feel as though the world rest on our shoulders, but, rest assured, if we are to remain committed to what we started, (ie) the dream job or attending the school of choice, eventually success in our chosen fields will become a reality.

The message here is to think global because there is always a light at the end of the tunnel if we are to remain steadfast in the choices that we've made. Go for it! It yours for the taking; and always remember that despite the challenges and adversities as you climb that ladder, there is nothing sweeter than success.

Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory ~ General George S. Patton

What if this was me?

2010-10-06T11:00:00.000-04:00

Always Negative

Settling for Mediocrity

Pride-less

Exuding Pessimism

Relying on Others

Allowing others to define and think for Me

Creating Strife

Never Reading

Drawing on other people's Strength

Always complaining and never having Solutions

AND

Always knows whats right, but never doing Anything.

While you may think that this reminds you of someone else,

Just pause for a moment and ask yourself, what if this is how I am and not recognize it?

Life is fun! Just recognize it and live it to the fullest because tomorrow is not promised to Anyone.

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results ~ Willie Nelson

Lead for Consciousness

2010-10-04T10:00:00.001-04:00

In his book Leadership for Age of Higher Consciousness, Swami Krishnapada states,“In ancient times a leader was considered both a representative of God and an administrator whose beneficial actions increased people’s love. See yourself as such a leader, and practice constantly to maintain this level of consciousness. In your role as a representative of God, accept everything that is offered, passing everything onto God without claiming proprietorship. Give God the credit for your achievements and express gratitude for your willingness to share...See yourself as a vehicle for contagious love that spreads to others wherever you go.”

You have what it takes to achieve anything that you put your mind toward. Just believe in yourself and believe in the gifts that you were born with and maximize on your true potential. You are the driver in control of your destiny! Stop acting like a passenger.

Find and Keep your Joy

2010-09-26T12:21:00.000-04:00

A man traveling across a field encountered a tiger. He fled, the tiger ran after him. Coming to a precipice, he caught hold of the root of a wild vine and swung himself over the edge.

The tiger sniffed at him from above. Trembling, the man looked down to where, far below, another tiger was waiting to eat him. Only the vine sustained him.

Two mice, one white and one black, little by little started to gnaw away the vine. The man then saw a luscious strawberry near him. Grasping the vine with one hand, he plucked the strawberry with the other.

How sweet it tasted.

It is a world of suffering, we all know that but joy can be found in all things. Throughout the adversities, throughout the pain, learn to find joy - It is there! Find it and keep it.

“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”—Henri Nouwen

From Dream to Reality: tenets to Success

2010-09-15T10:00:00.000-04:00

Quite often the term success is used by individuals without the true ramification of what it really means in the context of their lives. If someone poses the question, what does success mean? Invariably, a plethora of answers will be echoed. However, while everyone will view success through different lenses, the two fundamental tenets that can help everyone achieve their goals and become successful are discipline and dedication. Why are discipline and dedication two fundamental tenets to success? These are important because before one can become successful in anything that they endeavor or aspire into, that seed must begin with a discipline to consistently apply oneself toward a said goal, coupled with employing a sticktuitiveness in order to making one’s goal a reality. While this may sound foreign to some who believe that the price to success is a golden spoon or luck, just ask anyone who’ve succeeded on their own, and in most instances their answers will reflect “hard work,” “dedication,” “sacrifice,” and the likes. There is no magic wand to success. Success comes with one’s ability to discipline and devote themselves to their goal, whatever it may be. So, the next time you envision yourself being successful, just remember, the duopoly of D’s, Discipline and Dedication, the two fundamental tenets that can make a difference between a dream and reality.

How badly do you want to succeed?

2010-08-31T10:00:00.000-04:00

When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful - Sean Walker

How's your race?

2010-08-16T10:00:00.001-04:00

I've recently started a new chapter of my life, a chapter that I know will be filled with struggles, sweat and tears. As I pursue this new goal of mine, I find myself asking for help - from God. I pray that I am always appreciative, I pray that I find the strength to get up when I fall and I pray that he is there to guide me through this journey.
And so I pray for you as well, that you may find the strength to get up when you fall. Be appreciative always and rest assured that God is always with you, and will never give you more than you can bare. So as you go through your own journey, your own race, remember that the race isn't for the swift nor the strong but he who endures to the end.

Want, want, want...

2010-08-10T10:00:00.001-04:00

The truth is, you can never have everything, and even if you did, you would still want more. It's human nature to always want more out of life. Notice how people with a lot of money are always doing things to get more money, we have enough clothes in our closets but we still want to go shopping, our homes are fully and beautifully adorned but we always want to add something or renovate?; it's completely natural. However, you must not allow this to turn into greed. There comes a time when you have to take a step back, look at what you do have and be satisfied, be appreciative. Remember, It's not always about what you want, or what you wish you had, but rather what you do have. Whenever you forget how blessed and how much abundance you're surrounded by, reflect on the many people in different parts of the world that have not even a quarter of what you have - and are happy. Be happy, be appreciative, you are blessed.

Mantra of the week: Lord, I do give thee thanks for the abundance that is mine.

Keep Climbing

2010-07-29T10:00:00.001-04:00

You may have done it, but now is not the time to stop.

Quite often life throws us a good fortune and we accomplish feats that at instances we may have doubted ourself accomplishing. From getting into the graduate school of choice, getting a promotion on our jobs, doing well on an examination, or moving into your first apartment, these are all worthy endeavors. However, as the moment of achievement dies down, and the nostalgia wanes, it is important for us to realize that the window of achievement that we accomplish should not mean that we sit on our laurels and continue to live in the shadow of what we've accomplished; it means that the opportunity that we took advantage of and the goal that we've accomplished should be the energy that propels us to continue striving for more.

We must not lose sight of goals that we set for ourselves. We must remain hungry so that our drive and passion for improvement remain strong. If we don't, we risk falling short, which in some instances can make the difference between the next great thing that can happen in our lives.

As we begin contemplating our next move, may it be going back to school or looking for that new promotion, remember the more hungry you are - the more passion, energy, and desire you will have for achieving your goals. Remember also that even though you may have done it, now is no time to stop. You must persevere.

Newton's Law and Outside Influences, Law #1

2010-07-22T11:00:00.002-04:00

An object at rest, stays at rest unless there's an external force acting on it ~ Isaac Newton

Newton, I believe, stated the fundamentals of human action/reaction when he announced the laws of motion. In his first law of motion, he states that an object at rest will stay at rest unless influenced by an outside force. This can be directly linked to the relationships we have with each other.

Do you realize that the larger our circles, the easier it is for us to be influenced by those people within that circle? Suddenly we find ourselves trying to be more like the others. We adapt their behavior and lifestyle. We are, at times, compelled to give up our identities in order to 'fit in,' which can have negative consequences.

On the flip side, the smaller our circle, the less people we have to influence us and hence the less influenced we are by the outside world. Having small circles, especially if its a conscious minded group, enables us to be more genuine, to preserve more of ourselves, while at the same time having less distractions.

Take time, look at your inner circle and ask yourself, do you really need to have all those individuals around, or, should you limit the potential for outside distractions, and most of all negative influences especially when you are striving for upward mobility.

Can you hear me now?

2010-07-15T10:00:00.002-04:00

I've stressed many times on this blog that you can do anything you set your mind to, once there is belief and faith. I say this frequently not as a temporary pick-me-upper, not just because it's what everyone says when they want you strive for greatness - but in hopes of it finally becoming truth to you. I have to admit, I remind myself of this quite frequently as well.
But if you really think of it, what's really stopping us from achieving what we want? We can make all the excuses we want. The real answer is, nothing! See why:

High level, not eye level

2010-07-13T10:00:00.007-04:00

As I sat down to write this blog post, I had a change of heart about the topic about which I’d write. Actually, I wasn't sure whether to write a piece encouraging you to change some bad and meaningless habit, or write from the heart - on something personal this time around. I chose the latter.

It has been a stressful few months. At times we get so bogged down and caught up with the everyday happenings, fighting with ourselves, getting confused and being miserable that we forget to take a step back and look in from the outside, gain a different perspective. That is my goal today.

To gain new perspective on a problem, we have to elevate ourselves from it. We have to climb above it. Doing so will enable us to see many other possibilities that we would not have otherwise seen if we had stayed on ground level. If we are on the same level as our problems, our problems will overwhelm and consume us.

It's pointless to try to bring problems to ground level - they are what they are and will not change. The best thing to do is to rise above them. Rise above the challenges, and gain perspective from higher ground.

*Note to self.

If blue birds can fly over the rainbow, then why can't I?

2010-07-08T10:00:00.000-04:00

Equal Opportunity. Everyone should be afforded the same opportunities despite of color, race, class, creed or sexual orientation. It is disturbing to know that in this era people are still looked down on, scorned or become an outcast simply because he/she does not fit into a certain status quo. Why is it still difficult for many of us to accept each other as we/they are?
It is equally important for one to be him/herself, love and accept him/herself for who he is. Do not change or alter your lifestyle, your culture, your beliefs to merely "fit-in." When you are comfortable in your own skin you will earn people's respect and eventually they will come to accept you, albeit your differences. If they don't, well, what can you do? Consider it their loss at not opening up to you because you would continue being who you are by striving to be the best that you can be, while doing your part to make this world a better place one person at a time.

Be true to yourself always and try to overcome the pressures and challenges of the outside world. When you do, not only will you be able to make a difference in your life, but also in the lives of others as well.

Beauty in our Shadows

2010-07-06T08:00:00.001-04:00

"I hate my thighs," "I wish I had bigger boobs" We all have our "trouble" parts, the parts we don't like so much. Many of us secretly wish they weren't the way they are - we wish they were not there, we wish they were different, we wish we could do something about them.

Why don't we love these parts? why do we reject them?

There is beauty in those "trouble" parts - beauty in what we call imperfections. It is what makes us unique. These parts are longing for love and acceptance. Until we give them this, they will continue to assert themselves, they will continue to get our attention.

Take time to love yourself, all of you. Take a few moments, look in the mirror and open to the parts of yourself that you don't like so much. See each part honestly, and for what it is. Explore the wounds and the motives that gave rise to its condition. Love a wounded part of yourself and it will heal.

"The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it's something you allow." (Unknown)

Pray without Kneeling

2010-06-28T08:00:00.000-04:00

Customary to normal practices kneeling to pray is the traditional way in which we as human beings utter words of praise to our GOD. Customary with normal practices most people pray mainly when there is a need. Should praying be limited to mainly kneeling? Should praying be limited to "quid pro quo" only in the time of need? Prayer and the act of praying should be formless. The form or art of praying should bear no boundaries. Praying should be an infinite action that should occur despite of location, form, time or need. The next time you feel like praying just do it rather than wait; for you may never know why your intuition led you to such an action.

Have you uttered a word of prayer today? Don't wait to kneel!

photo from www.meetschmitt.com

Confidence vs. Ego: The Thin Line

2010-06-21T10:00:00.000-04:00

There seem to be some misconception, perhaps mis-communication on the part of the communicator, but more than likely a misinterpretation of the interpreter - to interpret that having confidence, having a high self esteem, empowerment... somehow means carrying a chip on the shoulder.

Being confident in oneself and having an ego are two separate and completely different things. One should not be confused with the other.

Let's define the ego: it is an exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit. When we think of ego we often think of a person with an inflated opinion of himself (justified or not). On the other hand, what is confidence? belief in oneself and his/her abilities, self-assurance.

See, the two are often times and easily confused. The egotistical and the confident person both like themselves. However, the confident likes himself based on what he IS and has a REALISTIC appreciation for his abilities. Simply put, he is real with himself, confident but not conceited.

Breach of the Line

The line between confidence and the ego is breached when you realize your abilities as being above the rest and act negatively on it. You start to feel overly good about yourself to the point of disrespecting others, to the point of arrogance and conceit; you start to gather belittling thoughts of another, and in turn put yourself on a pedestal or turn your nose up.

Stay on your side of the line
You might be smarter than others, more handsome, prettier, but it should not be made your duty to announce it to the world.You should be secure enough in your own attributes not to have to constantly make them known to others, or to have to prove your superiority. In the end this will only prove you are an insecure person who cares too much about how other people evaluate and see you.

It’s hard not to notice that many great people have huge egos. You probably need that super-inflated sense of self-belief to get you to high places. But take care that you do not get over-inflated with hot air instead. ~ Nicholas Yang

Plant My Phone

2010-06-12T16:22:00.000-04:00

Our forests are being depleted. The reason(s) for deforestation are often times very clear: the need to increase land for settlement and urbanization, timber for industrial use and fuel, cattle ranching, experimenting, etc etc. However, the devastating effects seem to far outweigh the benefits.

Deforestation has not only resulted in irreversible damage to the natural habitat of many wildlife species, but has also resulted in loss of biodiversity and increase in aridity. And if that doesn't strike a nerve, consider that the act of deforestation threatens the survival of many endangered species and also is one of the main contributors to climate change (Global Warming).

With that said, I am urging you to find ways in which we can make a difference here; a way in which we can replenish some of the trees lost by deforestation. I've discovered a program called Plant My Phone where, unused cell phones can be donated for recycling. The phones recycled then go towards planting several trees and thus promotes reforestation. I believe it's a splendid idea. How many of us have old cell phones laying around or that we will through out to otherwise end up in landfills which will further ad to the issue of climate change? Help make a difference by donating your unused or broken cell phones to Plant My Phone. It's easy and it's free.

Just visit www.plantmyphone.com <--click the link. Order your free mailing package or print out a free shipping label.

Send the package in. When Plant My Phone receives your unused or broken phones, they will recycle them and sell the recycled materials to fund tree planting.

Trees play a vital role in the environment. Recycling cannot be stressed any further. The more we are conscious about our recycling habits and the more awareness we can create will eventually lead to a greener, cleaner planet.

If iPods were Books

2010-06-02T08:00:00.002-04:00

The greatest gift is a passion for reading. It is cheap, it consoles, it distracts, it excites, it gives you knowledge of the world and experience of a wide kind. It is a moral illumination. ~ Elizabeth Hardwick.
Listening to music is a favorite pastime for many of us, but the average teen or young adult spends way too much time boppin' to their iPods rather than getting wrapped up in a good book. Case in point: A few days ago I went to the hair salon to get my hair done. This ordeal takes anywhere between 2-3 hrs so I decided to take a book with me. What better way is there to spend 2hrs under a hot dryer than with a good ole Robin Cook book, or something? I also brought my iPod with me, and somewhere between trying to block out the Novelas (Spanish soap operas) on the flat screen in front of me and wanting so badly to listen to Toni Braxton's new album, I succumbed to the iPod. Needless to say, Robin Cook was never cracked - FOR 2 WHOLE HOURS.
Interestingly, as I left the salon I said to myself, If only iPods were books, this world would be full of scholars! or at least my generation would be more academically advanced.

Food for Thought!!
*Post also featured on Stu-DENT Diaries

Half the Sky

2010-05-24T12:58:00.001-04:00

Half the Sky, is the name of the book I am now reading. It's a book documenting oppression of women around the world, and how we can change this oppression into opportunity for these women.This isn't a book review, but an awakening and an acknowledgment of the brutalities women face around the world each day. It is an eye opener and I implore you to read this book and to do whatever you can - if at least to become aware.
In some areas of Africa, India and China, sex trafficking is a booming business. Women and young girls, specifically the poor and uneducated , are trafficked, sold, raped, brutally beaten and even killed! It's an ongoing thing and these women have no voice. They are bought and sold as goods! They are forced to have sex, sometimes with many partners, without protection! They are beaten, burned or killed if they refuse. In these countries, women are the underdogs of society, they are subservient, they do as men say and they dare not fight back.
Young girls and women are so undermined in these parts of the world so much that they are not privy to the same medical care as their male counterparts. In the 1990's when the ultrasound was introduced, people of these nations were exceptionally happy as they now could tell the sex of their unborn, and if it were female, they would have abortions. The book also outlines "bride burnings" in parts of India. This is implicated to punish women for inadequate dowry or to eliminate her so a man can remarry! This is not all, in these same regions (Asia and Muslim countries) there are honor killings, sexual slavery, acid attacks, domestic violence and genital mutilation - to name a few.

This is not a book just ranting about the injustice women face, it is real-life documentary of some of these women, personal stories and pictures are placed throughout. Get the book, read these heart wrenching stories and affect change.

Women hold up Half the Sky - Chinese Proverb

Before It's too late

2010-05-20T08:00:00.000-04:00

It's Tuesday night, actually Wednesday morning - 12:18 am. The phone rings, "It's way too late to have a conversation," I think to myself. It rings again, I press the ignore button. It rings a third time, then a fourth - this must be important. "Hello?" I answer, in the most annoyed voice I could muster. "Hi, it's Carmen" I hear sobs. "Yeah, what's up?" I demanded. "She's in the hospital, unresponsive" Carmen says. "What?, what does that mean? I'm sure she'll be okay - It's probably just her kidneys again" More sobbing... "She can't wake up," she says. Now I'm fully awake. "What the hell Carmen! what do you mean she can't wake up?!" I screamed. More sobbing, "Brain dead." she sobbed into the receiver. The line went dead - busy tone.

It was like a whirlwind. Dizzy - I puked. Emotions overcame me like nothing I can, to this day, describe. Everything was gray, then totally black.

It was Sunday that i saw her last, saw her smile, her laugh, that sparkle in her eye - full of hope. Just two days ago it felt like she would be here forever. That day, forever came a bit early. No chance to say I love you, to say thank you, to even say good-bye.

But as I sat and thought some more, I realized that there were plenty of chances. There's just so much that we take for granted - thinking we'll always be here, always tomorrow. It doesn't quite hit you that this is not the case until you lose someone very dear to you - a loved one. It shouldn't be this way. Given the opportunity, we should never fail to express how much someone means to us. Always show appreciation, tell them you love them. Send an email or place a simple call. In the end have no regrets, no guilt; and find comfort in knowing that your loved one knows they meant a lot to you.

Go ahead. Make the call.

Originally, we were original

2010-05-12T12:52:00.002-04:00

Originally, we were original ~ Patrice S.

We are living in a highly technological age. Technological advances seem to occur by the minute (who knows?) Remember just a couple of years ago when the cell phone was introduced to the world? It was a big, bulky gadget. Overtime, not only did it become smaller, but it can facilitate more operations such as send a message using text; it then advanced into color; came with a camera; and before long it could access the web, send and receive email, download music.... It all seemed to have occurred with a wink of the eye, like this:

{missing from this is of course the infamous blackberry and iPhone}

In this fast paced world, this world of instant gratification and the like that we're living in, it is almost difficult for us to be original. Not too long ago when we had papers to write, research to do - we had to huddle our way to the library, sift through stacks of books to find just what we're looking for, or maybe just a hint of what we're looking for. Today, we have the internet - almighty Google. I love living in the technology age! However, I believe I/we have forgotten somewhat what it feels like to live in the days when there were simply no computers, no internet. We had to work for what we wanted. Everything took enormous effort and time. For example, since I have begun writing this blog, I searched the internet for quotations to reflect as themes for what I wrote; this effort required little or no thinking on my behalf. However, as I began processing my thoughts I realized that I was not being original; hence, starting today I will only use original quotations as it reflects the theme I intend to portray.

While technological tools are geared to allow us to do things more efficiently we have to urge ourselves not to get lost in the midst of it all. We still have to be original. Instead of googling "cell phones over the ages" to get the picture I have above, I could have gone around and collected cell phones that people might have had since those times until I had a collection that depicted the image that I wanted to portray. Then, that picture would have been mine - original. However, that time have passed. We are now living in a world of instant gratification.We need things to happen the moment we think about it. We are no longer willing to spend time thinking and processing information. It becomes easier for us to "copy and paste" and pass other people's ideas/work as though we did it. The question that comes to mind is, where is all the technology taking us? Is there a way for us to appreciate and use technology, but not lose our originality? I do think that this is possible, if only we take time to reflect on what's happening around us, and what we need to do to make it happen.
Be original!

You are not your mind

2010-05-08T17:16:00.000-04:00

"I think therefore I am" The single most erroneous statement - spoken by the philosopher Descartes.
We must understand that we are not our minds! The mind is but a separate entity - an instrument given to us for us to use. The quote above equates thinking with being and identity with thinking, which is erroneous. For it is the mind that thinks and not you. It is an arduous task, but try to separate your mind (your thoughts) from you. Stop, and listen to your thoughts (notice, I did not say listen to yourself?). It is true that the mind is a powerful thing, so powerful that it consumes you - it takes you over - it controls you.

The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very

destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly -

you usually don't use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your

mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over (excerpt from The Power of Now

by Eckharte Tolle).

We Rise

2010-04-26T10:00:00.001-04:00

As we rise to an all new level of sophistication, so too must our thinking, speaking and actions.

As we climb so too must our minds. Often times we move physically to a new level while our thoughts and attitudes remain the same - exuding attitudes which are not becoming of the place at which we are in our lives. As we traverse and climb to new heights throughout our lives, we should ask ourselves, what have we learned from the previous tier? Let the answer to this question be used as a guide to alter your thoughts, your attitudes - to alter the way in which we go about doing things. Let's elevate, transcend, and be the best possible person we can be.

Just a Coincidence

2010-04-22T10:00:00.000-04:00

What we know a coincidence to be, is when something uncanny happens, when two or more seemingly unrelated events occur at the same time.

I believe that there are no "coincidences" - there is a deeper order, an overarching purpose of the universe. I do not believe that things just happen! but occur in a uniformly and orchestrated way by the universe and the energies that we emit. One could argue therefore, going back some millions of years ago, to how humans came about. Were we ''coincidences," lucky accidents of evolution? Are the events in our lives objective or subjective?

For those with a highly empirical bent, a coincidence is happenstance, a simultaneous collision of two events that has no special significance and obeys the law of probability (mathematically speaking). For the mystically inclined, however, a coincidence is a synchronicity, the purposeful occurrence of two seemingly unrelated events.

Which are you?

It is no great wonder if in long process of time, while fortune takes her course hither and tither, numerous coincidences should spontaneously occur. ~ Plutarch

Critical Thinking

2010-04-18T18:40:00.000-04:00

Thinking critically is an essential tool that's necessary for helping you to better interpret what you read in books and newspapers, hear in speeches and advertisements, and finally in assessing what's happening in your everyday environment. To do so, critical thinking includes but is not limited to making a connection between theoretical and practical knowledge and evaluating the essence of claims made by others while bridging the gap between old and new knowledge. In addition, critical thinking allows a learner to state a position on an issue and defend one's position in a cogent manner. In other words, developing one's notion of critical thinking helps an individual to act as a problem solver, rather than a complainer.

As you traverse through life, you will always be faced with new phenomena and information that may be worthy of evaluating, hence, it will be important to employ critical thinking. How do you know what you read on the internet or in some mediums like newspapers and magazines are all true? Do you ever question the efficacy of such information? Do you check the sources, or attempt to corroborate the information to assess its accuracy? If so, then you are already employing critical thinking as a tool; if not, this is the opportunity to begin using critical thinking as a tool that's necessary to help you evaluate the efficacy of information.

Steps that can be used to aid in critical thinking are:

1. Read and reread or listen attentively

2. Always question the sources of data

3. Always question the conclusions obtained from sources of data

4. Always attempt to determine if any built in biases are incorporated into the conclusion

5. Always attempt to question everything

6. Always attempt to formulate your own conclusions (albeit different sometimes) from those drawn from what you've read, heard, or watched

Any formal attack on ignorance is bound to fail because the masses are always ready to defend their most precious possession – their ignorance. ~ Hendrik van Loon

On Love and Marriage: Part Deux

2010-04-16T18:30:00.000-04:00

In continuation with the last post on Love and Marriage...

You spent a wad on that big, fabulous wedding. All your friends were there, all your family - everyone had a good time - fabulous! It suuure seemed like a lot of love, everything was so sentimental. You probably even shed a tear or two during the ceremony. Now, what happened to all that?
Let's talk divorce. The divorce rate per annum is startling! According to divorce.org, 50% of all Marriages in America end in divorce. I find that quite sad. After all the love shared and showed, especially at these fabulous weddings, why is it that so many marriages end up in divorce? In any union communication is key. However, it seems most marriages fail because of a lack thereof. Of course there are many different reasons why marriages fail whether it is financial issues, personal issues, extra marital affairs, etc but, why is it that the number one reason (as reported) is a cheating spouse (who knew?). So my question is this: What causes a partner to cheat/stray?

I recently read an article about cheating spouses and the signs to look out for - some of which are typical. What really got my attention was the mention of certain companies out there that actually "help" these cheating spouses to cover their tracks! You know the popular excuses of "working late" or "business trips"? For a fee, these companies, in these instances, will print out fake plane tickets to the cheater's fake destination and cover every angle possible to cover their tracks. It even changes caller ID and other records to make it seem like they are calling from where they said they were going rather than where they actually went with their ‘acquaintance'. They make it almost impossible to know if your spouse is cheating under these conditions.

I would love to hear your thoughts on marriage, cheating and divorce.

When people get married because they think it's a long-term love affair, they'll be divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of spiritual identity. ~ Joseph Campbell

Intentions

2010-04-06T17:58:00.000-04:00

We all have goals, intentions... and if you're anything like me, you have a new one everyday.
The goals I am referring to do not include things like: Do the dishes, wash the car, pick up clothes from the cleaners... no - I mean long-term goals.
Long ago, when i was a kid, I liked keeping diaries. I liked jotting down my hopes, dreams, the little things that bother me, the things I like and would like to do/see, etc. Now-a-days, as a young adult - I keep a blog. However, while blogging is a good tool to do all the things you can with a diary while reaching the world at the same time, it is hardly a place to document your long-term goals - to set a deep-rooted aspiration and work towards accomplishing it everyday.
Following up with your goals is not always very easy. How many of us set those new year resolutions at the beginning of the year only to have forgotten about them by March? Your goals should be a constant - set it in such a way where it is deep-rooted. Post it all around you, make it a part of you - just as a reminder. You will be surprised how well it works.

A goal I have been working on is to stay calm during rough times. I am easily flustered. I am very organized and strategic and I like things to go as intended. However, this is not always the case and when things do not go according to plan I tend to "spazz" a little. Because of this I have posted a little saying all over in my home, I even write it in my palm occasionally. It's a simple saying but it works well. It's simply "Keep Calm and Carry On."

A friendly reminder:

Of Love and Marriage: Part Un

2010-03-28T18:27:00.000-04:00

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom, or church, or synagogue. It's a choice you make/ not just on your wedding day, but over and over again/ and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife. ~Barbara De Angelis

Marriage, according to the Mirriam-Webster dictionary, is the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law. But, what leads to marriage in the first place? Long ago there was only one answer to this question...Love. Nowadays, the reasons for marriage seem a bit skewed, wouldn't you say?

I consider marriage to be a sacred union between two individuals, a tight bond. For this to occur the highest level of love should exist - unconditional love. I started reflecting on this topic after browsing the television and stopping at MTV's "most expensive weddings" for a minute. At that moment it was fun to watch. I got a real kick out of it. It wasn't until afterward that it really dawned on me...It's truly amazing how people go above ad beyond for this particular...event?

It seems the institution of marriage has become more of an event, or a show, rather than an intimate ceremony celebrated with close family and friends commemorating the love between two individuals.

Marriage seems to have come down to, who will have the most expensive ring? the most lavish/expensive dress, the largest cake, the most flowers, the best location...Do any of these things signify the amount of love one partner has for the other? It would seem that way. It would seem that everyone is trying to outdo each other to, in some way, prove that they are the most loving couple. It's somewhat outrageous.

Your thoughts?

SPRING: New Beginnings

2010-03-23T10:00:00.001-04:00

I see trees of green, red roses too; I see them bloom for me and you, and I think to myself...what a wonderful world. ~Louis Armstrong

Spring; the dawning of new life.
It is certainly a breath of fresh air seeing things bloom again - new life being created; a new cycle beginning. We see the break of the sun, we feel it's warm; the down pour of rain - photosynthesis. We see the flowers in bloom, which brings out the birds. The earthworms are back, as well as other animals from their hibernation. So much color, such vibrance! We see a fresh new cycle and we can't help to think to ourselves, what beauty, what magnificence this earth possesses. It all brings with it the aura of change, of hope and of new beginnings.

And so too, at this time, we must try to turn over a new leaf. Start a-fresh, begin a new cycle - breathe the beauty and magnificence of Life.

Enjoy this selection:

Do it your way

2010-03-16T10:00:00.001-04:00

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are trying to conform to the things or systems that are already in place but not catching a break? Sometimes what you need to do re-invent the wheel.

There are many stories of people who have unsuccessfully tried to position themselves in a system that simply has no spot for them. We often dub these unfortunate circumstances with the bromines, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try and try again," or " only through suffering can we find joy," etc. These are often times true, but there are those other times when we should make our own system.

I will be attending Dental School in the fall of 2010, yes I will be a dentist (orthodontist hopefully) SMILE!
Professional schools are extremely expensive to attend but yet, they offer the least funding to their students. I have been tirelessly searching and applying to the little scholarships that exist for students like myself - unsuccessfully. I have heard many horror stories of students who are forced to drop out of these professional schools because of the alarming cost and little to no financing to get through it.
Because of this, I have decided to, in my own way, re-invent the wheel. I have decided to start a cause on facebook, Aid for Minority Dental Students, where anyone may join and support the cause by donating. Through this cause students like myself will be able to offset some of the expenses that come with professional school - this would make the process a lot less burdensome, at least financially.

If you would like to support my cause, please go here. Feel feel to join, donate and invite your friends and family. You may also donate by hitting the "donate" button to the left of the screen.

*Some Dental Schools cost well over $300,000, over a 4yr period.
All proceeds from the cause will go to the non-profit organization: Recycle for Education, where it will then be awarded to eligible students.

Snap out of it!

2010-03-07T13:23:00.000-05:00

One moment you find yourself irritable and down in the dumps for no rhyme or reason; the next moment you find yourself happy and boisterous. These emotional upheavals and mood swings take you on a roller-coaster ride. Unknown

Is this you? I know this is me. Sometimes my moods confuse me. They sometimes seem to be involuntary - like breathing (Okay maybe I'm exaggerating a bit)

When you're in a rut, when your mood has taken a turn for the worse - what uplifts you? what makes you happy? what turns that frown upside down?
Recently I discovered a little mind game that helps me to "snap out of it." It's asking myself a few simple questions, and then implementing the answers. What uplifts me? What puts a smile on my face?
I enjoy moments by myself, reading a good book or listening to some soothing music. Sometimes it's going for a jog around the block, or maybe window shopping. Other times it may be remembering things from my childhood, those carefree, fun days. That always gets me smiling.

I find that implementing one of those things that make me happy changes my mood for the better. I feel light and energetic. So, when your in a down mood, go ahead! Ask yourself: what puts a smile on your face?

My father would take me to the playground, and put me on mood swings. Jay London

Celebrating ME!

2010-03-02T13:14:00.000-05:00

Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. ~ Unknown

It's my birthday! (cakes, confetti, laughter, cheers, drinks = paaartay!) Typical huh? But no, not this time around. I've grown a year older; more responsible, more mature, more inspired, more motivated...
Today, I'm celebrating me - in a different way. I'm celebrating my experiences, both good and bad. I'm celebrating the wonderful people that have been a part of my life, the people that has helped to shape my character. I'm celebrating the freckles on my back, my irregular eyebrows, my short stature, my one and only dimple... I'm celebrating the things that make me, me. I'm celebrating my life.

I'm grateful for seeing yet another year, and I thank my readers, my audience for sharing these experiences with me. Without you, I wouldn't exist (or would I?)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MEEE!

Wait Your Turn

2010-02-28T16:40:00.000-05:00

It's just the way the game is played it's best if you just wait your turn...

This song by Rihanna was on the radio while on my way home from the library this afternoon. She makes a good point. Even though this is one of the only two lines I know in the song, I took something away from it. In essence, I got that nothing happens before it's time. Sometimes we find ourselves trying so hard, on numerous occasions to obtain something, when, sometimes it's just not our turn yet. Often times, if we just give it time and wait for everything to take it's time and fall into place we will find just what we are looking for, or even better.

For someone special today, the wait is over!

Matty from Matty Thoughts is the winner of the February 21st drawing of the beautiful two-toned bracelet.

Congrats Matty!! Hope it brings you lots of joy!

For the rest of you who did not win this time around, well, I guess you'll just have to wait your turn!

Put up or Shut Up!

2010-02-22T21:43:00.000-05:00

...apparently, I learned this pretty late. People, I've noticed can be very different, or difficult. Personalities can be like fire and ice or like wind and water; and sometimes there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Only after frustration, then reflection that we sometimes come to realize that we have to leave things alone, that it may not be worth it to get upset or lose sleep over things that we cannot change. Sometimes, as hard as it may be, we have to accept things as they are and learn to work with or around them. In the end this will only prove to make you a stronger and wiser individual. In the end this will undoubtedly change your attitude towards that which had bothered you in the first place. Eventually, this will change you - for the better.

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude. ~ Charles Swindoll

Billet-Doux or not?

2010-02-14T17:56:00.014-05:00

Love is a fiend, a fire, a heaven and hell, where pleasure, pain and

sad repentance dwell (author unknown).

Really, what does love mean to us in the context of Valentines Day? What does love mean to us in the spirit of...everyday? February 14th marks the day that's referred to as Valentines day, the day of love. It is estimated that $1.36 billion will be spent on flowers because of "February 14th." How much of that are you spending to show your love for someone? Should love be limited to a day or a moment? To me, February 14th is a day of reflection, like every other day. It's a day where love should be shown and received like any other. One should not limit themselves to showing their love on set day - February 14th. Love is limitless. Love is boundless, and it ought to be celebrated as such. While its true that as creatures of habit, we've become marred in symbolic days, but love is too precious to be bundled into one day out of three hundred and sixty five. Go ahead, spread love, so that the world can be a better place because we've unleashed the true boundless spirit of the word.

Happy Love Day, like every other day.

Of Giving and Receiving (GIVEAWAY!!)

2010-02-08T01:31:00.011-05:00

It's a special time of year; It's the month of February, the month of love - of giving and receiving.

...and so, in keeping with this month's festivities, I want to give a little love to my fellow bloggers. Yes, it's a giveaway! This giveaway is a beautiful two tone (silver and gold) magnetic bracelet. It's a fashionable addition to your jewelry collection, and can be worn to complement casual wear, business attire or even evening wear. It's the perfect gift for the season. There are two options, one for men and one for women. Winner will receive one or the other (any of your choice).

The criteria for this giveaway are:

Mandatory:

1. Be a follower of Climb. Reach. Achieve through Google friend connect. You follow by clicking the "follow" button on the left panel.

2. Leave a comment on this post stating why this is giveaway makes the perfect gift, and comment on all other posts leading to the months drawing.

Other Entries:

3. Follow my tweets on twitter @psmithsonian

4. Grab my button!
**All actions are worth 1 entry each. Grabbing the button is worth 4 entries.

This contest ends on February 21, 2010 at 11:59pm, eastern time. Winner will be chosen randomly and contacted via email. Ensure that I can access your profile to retrieve your email address or simply place it in the comment section. The winner will have 24hrs to accept the gift or the gift will be given to the next random pick. Good luck!

...and for the receiving portion, I'd like to say many thanks to Robin at Insights and Belly Laughs for handing down the Happy 101 award. It's my second time receiving this award so yes, I'm very happy!

In keeping with the tradition of this award, ten things that make me truly happy are:
1. Blogging 2. Friends 3. Family 4. Helping others 5. Seeing someone smile 6. Traveling 7. Being Successful 8. Accomplishing goals 9. Making someone else happy 10. Receiving awards :)

I'd also like to pass this award down to some other bloggers/blogs that make me happy:
1.Calebsmom at I'll Do Me for being such a great and beautiful mom.
2. Orville at Superdupes Blog for being uniquely you.
3. The girls at Life Laugh Latte for being so funny, witty and ALL female
4. Riz at Listen to Riz for being beautiful and down to earth
5. Tynga at Tynga's Blog Design for creatively and beautifully designing my blog over by Stu-DENT Diaries. Have you seen it? She's also VERY affordable!

The quickest way to receive love is to give love; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings (Unknown).

Spread the LOVE

Get up! Go out and find it!

2010-01-31T10:00:00.001-05:00

Let's face it, nothing in life is easy. We must go after what we want. Too often we expect things to just be handed to us. We can't expect to get anything done, go anywhere by just sitting there. We have to get up, go out and go after the things we want.

Sometimes we have to fight and struggle for what we want. Sometimes, without a struggle, we would hardly appreciate the things we accomplish. When we fight for the things we want, our dreams, goals and aspirations, when we shed sweat, tears and blood only then will we be appreciative of our struggles. Only then does what we accomplish have great meaning and value to us, and only then will we feel fulfilled.
I've listened in on many pity parties and they always seem to be around one central theme, "why life is so hard." Life isn't hard. Life, my friends is simply what you make of it. As Helen Keller puts it, life is a succession of lessons which must be lived in order to be understood. Obstacles, believe it or not, serve their purpose. Whether it is to prevent you from making a bad decision, make you stronger or wiser, or simply help you to wake up!...they are there for a reason. So next time when you are feeling sorry for yourself because something never worked out the way you anticipated, remember that life's ups and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals. Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want.

When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up. Let your reason get you back up ~ Les Brown

No Ceilings; No Walls

2010-01-25T10:00:00.000-05:00

Our thoughts guide and direct us. It is our thoughts that also limit and bound us - limitations live only in our minds.

As I sat in the library this afternoon reading a novel, I was reminded, by a gentleman sitting next to me, of how limitless we are as human beings and it is us who place limitations on ourselves.
I noticed this old man sitting next to me, he was reading Wayne Dyer's The Sky's the Limit - obviously motivated by it. Later on, he fell quiet and I thought he fell asleep. However, I later came to know he was meditating. He said he was thinking of a plan, he was in deep thought. He went on to tell me that everything that he wants comes to him freely and effortlessly. Of course, I gave him a funny look and even thought he was a bit strange. He then said, "I think everything into existence." Now, that is something I knew all along, but never have I had a real life testament of it. I listened to him for a few more minutes, until he said he had to go - to execute his plan. As he walked away he turned and said to me, "Look up, look around you, really, look! what's holding you inside?" I replied, "well, I'm not sure what you mean but, there are these walls and the ceiling, I can't get out unless I go through the door. He smiled and said to me, "no, young lady, there are no ceilings, no walls - you are limitless and boundless.

So there, as you go about your daily activities try to remember that, it is possible, all those thoughts of great things that you have - it all can happen; if you think it into existence.

No Ceilings; No walls

Where's the Love?

2010-01-18T19:14:00.003-05:00

There is a Law that man should love his neighbor as himself. In a few hundred years it should be as natural to mankind as breathing or the upright gait; but if he does not learn it he must perish. ~Alfred Adler

Sometimes I wonder where our compassion for each other is. It is very sad to know that in our world today we have people, human beings, that possess hatred and bitterness towards fellow human beings.

As the devastating earthquake in Haiti weighs heavily on my mind, I can't imagine how I could possibly feel anything other than heartbreak, sympathy, remorse, sadness and even guilt for all the lives lost. How can we feel nothing when we consider the families that have been uprooted, for all the children that have been left without parents or loved ones, for the unborn babies that have died in their mother's wombs, for the senseless dying...How is possible to feel...nothing, for these people? How is it possible to react to such a catastrophe so negatively? Let us be reminded that no man is more than, or less than any other, for man was made from dust, and to dust he will return.

So as a prelude whites must be made to realize that they are only human, not superior. Same with Blacks. They must be made to realize that they are also human, not inferior ~ Steven Biko

Serenity

2010-01-13T10:00:00.000-05:00

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

There are some things that are inevitable; we can do nothing about them. Leave them be. The past also - it cannot be changed, so accept what has been with no regrets, no resentments, and no call for vengeance. Remember too, that there are a million "wrong things" in the world (as well as a billion "right things"), so focus your energies on addressing with courage the few issues closest to your heart and never waste your time or energy complaining. Either take positive action, or accept with serenity.

Quote taken from dreamthisday

The Guide in You

2010-01-06T13:00:00.001-05:00

"There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls." ~ Howard Thurman

The true essence of our very existence stemmed from spirituality. Spirituality in the sense of a personal sojourn. A personal choice as to how we seek guidance, hinges on our beliefs. I choose GOD as my spiritual guide. Sitting within the confines of myself and meditating gives me a renewed sense of who I am and where I am going. This endeavor not only guides my physical being, but my spiritual as well. Today, I submit to you, take time to reflect on you. Practice the art of meditation and solemness. Not only will your spiritual side be renewed, but, your ability to discern coupled with a sense of newness, will be realized as well. Or, as one of my best friends sagaciously says, Silence is the symphony of the voice. I truly believe this because when I sit in the silence of my space, the orchestra reverberates and I feel a sense of fulfillment.

and the Award goes to...

2010-01-03T14:50:00.005-05:00

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well." ~ Voltaire

Too few times do we take time out to show appreciation to someone who has done good by us or who has simply made our world that much more enjoyable. I am happy that we, in the blogosphere have our own way of showing our gratitude to each other by designating blog awards.

Some time ago I received the "From me to You" blog award from The Daily Inspiration Herald. I'd like to say Thank you and pass this award on to other deserving bloggers.

Award goes to:

Matty at Matty Thoughts

Tiffany at On the Verge

Annie at Coffee Break

Secretia at Secret Story Time

Duckalicious at BatCrap Crazy

For everyone else that did not receive this award, do not despair! You are also very well appreciated. I'd like to take this opportunity to wish all you bloggers a very happy and prosperous 2010! To show just how much you are appreciated, here's an award for you too. Yes, for ALL of you. Thank you for visiting and supporting me at Climb. Reach. Achieve.

Thanks to Tiffany at On the Verge

PS Don't forget to grab my button, located on the panel to the left of the screen.

Shhh, Silence!

2009-12-28T00:44:00.001-05:00

"Much talking is the cause of danger. Silence is the means of avoiding misfortune. The talkative parrot is shut up in a cage. Other birds, without speech, fly freely about." ~ Saskya Pandita

Sometimes we talk so much, too much!
It's not always a good thing. U know, sometimes we can say much more just by saying nothing. It is important to have control, control over our tongues and our minds. How helpful is the whispering, gossiping, lying, backbiting, slander?? someone winds up hurt, disgraced and too often DEAD. Solomon once said, "The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; the one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin". (Pro. 13:3). It's important to beware and stay clear of such things for the said reasons Solomon gave.
Silence is also important as it is the element in which great things fashion themselves together. What do I mean by this? We sometimes fail to recognize just how important and advantageous silence is. Silence is Powerful! It's only when there is silence that you can listen to your heart and make good decisions. You get to think clearly about your thoughts. There are no distractions. Through this we can reflect and enjoy the things around us, nature...We will then appreciate things more, appreciate ourselves, appreciate others and appreciate this thing called Life. Sshhhh....

Be Silent yourself, that will induce Silence in others. Do not fall into the habit of shouting, talking long and loud. Carry with you an atmosphere of quiet contemplation, wherever you happen to be. The less you talk, the more will become your mental power. With the increase in your mental capacity, there will be increase in your power of discrimination too. Consequently, you will give up individual discrimination . Because of this, you will begin to consider the good of the world at large rather than your own individual welfare. You must cultivate such broad feelings from this young age itself. ~ Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Overcome Guilt!

2009-12-21T20:19:00.000-05:00

What are you FEELING guilty of?
Have you done something you know you shouldn't have done? Did not do something you should have? didn't reply to your friend's email? spent hours aimlessly surfing the web when there were more important things to do? told a little white lie? started a rumor? fell of your diet and weight loss regimen? Did not meet your goals for the day? What are you guilty of and why??

Guilt is an emotional and psychologically difficult reaction you feel when you believe you have done something out of sorts or... wrong, or the false idea that you should have done better. There are different types of guilt. One type is when a personal action, thought, or even behavior is out of alignment with your individual core values, in other words, going against your own conscience. Another type of guilt occurs when you feel guilty for situations you did not cause or have no control over.
In either case, harboring guilt is not healthy. It gets you emotional; angry, depressed...It may not be easy, but try to let go of the guilt you have pent up. Create awareness! Come to the realization that it really isn't your fault, or if it is, accept it for what it is. Without awareness, we are without control, totally at the mercy of our past. So, once you have come to terms with what is burdening you, if there is something you can do about it right now that could change things, go ahead and give it a try. If not, realize you were wrong, pray about it, ask for forgiveness and convince yourself (make a vow) that it will never happen again.

Guilt was never a rational thing; it distorts all the faculties of the human mind, it perverts them, it leaves a man no longer in the free use of his reason, it puts him into confusion.
~ Edmund Burke

Treasure the experience

2009-12-13T05:00:00.001-05:00

We all have experienced this some time or the other - when we think we have it all figured out, only to find out later and learn that things don't always happen the way we plan or anticipate. This year has been quite a challenge for me with it's agonizing set backs and disappointments. However, as usual, we eventually come to see the broader picture and realize the blessings hidden within our set backs and trials. I have come to realize what a blessing this year has turned out to be despite these disappointments. Because of the experiences I gained this year, I am further and better equipped to pursue my goal. In all this, I have come to learn that life has a mysterious way of showing us exactly what we need to see, what we need to know. Sometimes it may come in the guise of disappointments and set backs. However, whichever way it comes, we should always try to treasure and appreciate the experiences that come along with it.

We need to let go of the need to constantly keep score. There are great possibilities patiently waiting to happen for us. Often times it may not be what we think or hope it is, but it is important that we let go of some of the obsessive attachments that we may have towards a certain thing. Remember that all we could ever hope for is already connected to us but it becomes impossible to see if we are constantly focused on getting more, or something else.

" Good things happen as soon as you get past the need for them. Let life flow as it will, and it will flow in great abundance." ~ Ralph Marston

So, stop interfering with your own authentic fulfillment. Sincerely treasure each and every experience, and there will be much more to treasure.

Smile a While

2009-12-06T10:00:00.000-05:00

"Smile, even if it's a sad smile, because sadder than a sad smile is the sadness of not knowing how to smile" ~ Anonymous.

Did you know that the body knows that a smile means happiness? I have come to learn that if I put a smile on my face, even when I’m feeling down, my spirits will automatically lift. Knowing this doesn’t necessarily mean I’m always willing to do it. Many times, I have absolutely refused to cheer myself up. Isn’t that interesting!

However, this is a clue that sometimes the ego positively enjoys being miserable. It can be enlightening to explore the pay-offs we get from our black moods.

So, even if you're in a bad mood - don't forget to smile; It's FREE therapy!

Now who doesn't like free? :)

Glass half full or half empty?

2009-11-29T10:00:00.002-05:00

The glass half full or half empty is a typical philosophical question asked to indicate whether a particular situation at a particular time could be the cause of optimism or pessimism.

Take a look at the three glasses above. The one on the left, empty isn't it? The one on the right, full right? Now look at the glass in the middle. What do you see? Is the glass half full or is it half empty?

Remember, often times what seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.

Give Thanks

2009-11-26T12:19:00.001-05:00

Thanksgiving is celebrated as a time for family, a time to get together and reunite with those loved ones, relations, and friends you haven't seen in a while. It's an opportunity to eat turkey and copious amounts of other food without feeling guilty - a holiday!

This Thanksgiving, as you welcome your friends, family, guests and other acquaintances into your home, be grateful and thankful for everyone and everything you have accomplished in life. Take a moment to reflect on all this. As you sit down to eat, don't forget to also take time to mention the true history of America. Acknowledge the joy at coming together, and the rich tapestry that makes up this American culture. It is the richness of the people that makes us a strong and resolute people. At the same time, we must be cognizant that not everyone may share in the values and mores of this day. We must not shun them. We must, in the richness of our history, enlighten them on the greatness of this country and its people. Although at times disagreeing, but we do so in the spirit of not only learning to forgive, but yet remembering to give thanks even for those that we disagree with.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Money or Passion?

2009-11-22T10:00:00.003-05:00

This is a spin-off from the previous post entitled "Does Introspection Satisfy Ambivalence?"

I had the privilege of critiquing a friend's term paper the other day, and she made some surprising yet concrete points. Her paper was entitled " In Choosing a career, what prevails?"

In the paper, she sought to answer the question of whether it is important to consider the relative worth of ones chosen profession in terms of salary or job opportunities, or whether it is wiser to look at ones own desires and passion to excel in that profession. In answering this question, my friend went on to say that, in keeping with today's realities, such as the current recession et al, pursuing a job which you love (sometimes with little reward) is "trying to sound morally correct and proves one is out of touch with today's happenings. Hmmmmmm......

I respect my friends' point of view and I have to agree she has some sound points. However, my personal opinion on the matter is quite the opposite. I believe that one should position them self in a profession that will compound ones area of interest. The psychologist will argue that it has been seen that it is better to follow one's passion to take up the line of work that really and instinctively appeals to them. The reason for this is simple. The passion for doing the kind of work you like would come easily to you and you would not mind devoting the time and energy required to excel in the profession. When this happens, your work becomes labor of love and you look forward positively to work everyday. You will arrive at work energized and leave work feeling refreshed and accomplished. The quality of work you put forth will show and be recognized by your superiors and hence, you will be rewarded.

It has been proven over and over that passion and interest for ones chosen profession is one of the most important factors dictating one's success or failure . If you have passion, the money will follow. That's my belief. What's yours?

My Very First Award

2009-11-15T19:39:00.003-05:00

Today I received my very first blog award! It's quite flattering to say the least, and pretty exciting.

Thanks to Charisse and Holly at Life-Laugh-Latte

We don't always get rewarded for the work that we do, and likewise we don't always recognize the work we do. It is a good feeling when other people do so recognize and appreciate your work, and it is equally a good gesture when they reward you for it. Thanks again girls!

In keeping with the blogger tradition, I would like to pass this award on to some of the deserving bloggers which I follow:

Dayne at Coach Your Mind - Congrats Dayne! Continue to inspire and motivate others.
Tracy-Ann at Only In Jamaica - Congrats Tracy! Thanks for keeping me close to home.
Beautiful Dreamer at Daily Inspiration Herald - Congrats!, you have a beautiful blog. Keep keeping positive.

To all my other fellow bloggers, your award is coming soon!

Carpe' Diem

2009-11-15T10:00:00.000-05:00

For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. ~Fr. Alfred D'Souza

Isn't this the same with most if not all of us? If we're in school we tend to always say, "one day this will all pay off, then I can finally live my life;" or if we come across a rough patch in our lives we tend to say, " Everything will be alright soon, then I can start living life and being happy." It's time for us to shift our thoughts and ideas about "living life." We go to bed at nights and wake up the following day (Thank God) living our lives! So why not make the most of each day? Why is everyone just waiting around for that or those special days or moments to come when you can finally "live life." Wake up people! You are living your lives everyday. So, it does not matter what your situation is, always try to live each day to the fullest; for neither of us know what the next micro-second, minute, hour or day holds. Do yourselves a favor and live each day as if it were your last.

Think and reflect on this question: If tomorrow were to be your final day on earth, what would you do today to have made your life worth living? (feel free to post your answers below).

Treat everyday from hereon out as if there was no tomorrow. Carpe Diem folks, Carpe Diem!

The Most of life

2009-11-09T16:09:00.011-05:00

I sat here thinking about what to blog and inspire you with today. Of course, my blogs are inspired by my everyday activities and the lessons I've learnt. As I sat here, I started thinking and asking myself about life in general. What is life? what makes it so special, and what makes everyone's experience so...different. As I thought about that, a famous quote by Hellen Keller popped into my head. She once said, "Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." In one quote, all my questions were answered.

Some of these life lessons have been compiled in the beautifully designed slideshow below. Enjoy!

Motivational and Inspirational Quotes

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Does Introspection Satisfy Ambivalence?

2009-11-01T23:11:00.000-05:00

Are you doing something that you don't necessarily like doing? A job / profession, a course of study in school? If it makes you miserable, then perhaps you may want to rethink what you're doing. Remember the previous post about finding your purpose? what you're doing may not necessarily be your calling. If you're having this experience, ask yourself these three questions:

1. Do I see myself doing this for the rest of my life?
2. Am I happy doing this?
3. Am I eager to start my day knowing that this is what I have to do?

Stop and think for a moment. If you answered no to any of these questions, you may need to re-think what brings happiness to you, what will lead to you living a fulfilled and purposeful life. What do you need to do to make it a reality?
Remember, you have only one life to live. Enjoy it and be happy! Do the things you love doing because the answer resides in YOU.

"What we really want to do is what we are meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors are open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us." ~Julia Camron

The essene of Patience

2009-10-24T19:44:00.001-04:00

Have I not been doing all that I need to do? Why is it taking so long then?

This is a question we ask ourselves when things aren't quite happening as quickly as we anticipated. That's understandable. In a world of cell phones, Internet, email, microwave, everything-on-demand, or, in other words instant gratification, it is no wonder why when it comes to our goals and aspirations we want to see results immediately. Unfortunately our goals and aspiration require a little more work to have them come to fruition, and results rarely, if ever, occur over night. For this reason it is important to have self control, forbearance and patience. These qualities only serve to strengthen who we are and make us appreciate our efforts and achievements, especially when it manifests itself into our hearts desires. So, the next time we anxiously await an important decision in our life, remember that you've already done your part, so having patience is of paramount importance. Or, in the words of Arnold H. Glasgow, the key to everything is patience; you get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.

The Skinny on Success, Why not You?

2009-10-16T23:37:00.005-04:00

"Know then, that the world exists for you. For you is the phenomenon perfect. What we are, that only we can see. All that Adam had, all that Caesar could, you have and can do...build therefore your own world." ~ Ralph W. Emerson, Nature (from The Skinny on Success: why not you?)

I had the privilege of getting my hands on a pre-released copy of a series of The Skinny on... books. It's called The Skinny on Success, Why not you?
As the name suggests, the book breaks down how each and everyone of us can be successful (whatever it is success means to us). It’s a delightful and entertaining read that employs a very easy-to-digest, straight forward format. It is really unlike the typical books on success, or any book for that matter.
As you may imagine, I've read my share of inspirational/success-how to... books, but never have I come across one that was so concise. It is narrated by the stick figure Jim Randel (who happens to also be the author) who takes us through the lives of Billy and Beth (other stick people like the one you see on the cover of the book above). He uses these people to take the reader on an insightful journey into what it takes to achieve one's goals and become successful, while at the same time giving advice, conveying theories and corroborating these theories with real life stories of some of the most successful people today. The format is much like the story books we read as a child-but not quite, enabling anyone of any age group to enjoy this read. In this book that takes approximately 2hrs to devour, you're given the raw facts. Nothing is sugar coated. Success, as some of us know, isn't something that occurs over night but what comes about as a result of a combination of hard work, willpower, patience and perseverance...

If you are tired of reading books that are just filled with the bromides "you can do it!," "You can be anything you want to be"... I recommend you give this book a try. It not only offers validation and inspiration but a REAL insight into what it REALLY takes to MAKE IT!

If interested, you can order by visiting the "Recommendations" tab located on the side panel to the left of the screen.
To explore the award winning series The Skinny On... you may visit www.TheSkinnyOn.com.

Go for your Purpose

2009-10-11T11:00:00.005-04:00

Has it ever crossed your mind that you're here on this earth for a purpose?

If not, you're being told now, you're here for a purpose. Each of us that call this earth home are given a set of gifts that we are to unravel and use as we traverse through life. Achieving and using those gifts, are a function of how well in-tuned we are with ourselves.
Quite often, we as immortal beings continue to function out of sync with the path that's destined for us; hence, we're faced with a myriad of disappointment after disappointment.

It is imperative that we strive toward understanding our purpose in life. It is imperative that we sit within the confines of our space and listen to ourselves. It is imperative that upon introspection we look both inward and outward of ourselves to better understand who we really are, and what our purpose in this life is. It is only then will we truly begin to understand ourselves in lieu of our purpose. It is only then will we be able to appreciate life's drawbacks as we aspire to reach the epitome of our true purpose.

Go for your purpose!

Beyond Expectations

2009-10-04T13:09:00.011-04:00

Those who do no more than they are paid for have no real basis for requesting more pay because they are already getting all they deserve to earn. ~ Napoleon Hill

Rule of thumb: Expect less and always try to do more than you ought to, for the more you do for others, the more you are doing for yourself and for the world. So try to do a little more than expected and you will also receive more than you ever dreamed of in return. I promise! Take Petey Parker's story for example, he says:

A cab driver taught me a million dollar lesson in customer satisfaction and expectation. Motivational speakers charge thousands of dollars to impart his kind of training to corporate executives and staff. It cost me a $12 taxi ride.
I had flown into Dallas for the sole purpose of calling on a client. Time was of the essence and my plan included a quick turnaround trip from and back to the airport. A spotless cab pulled up.

The driver rushed to open the passenger door for me and made sure I was comfortably seated before he closed the door. As he got in the driver's seat, he mentioned that the neatly folded Wall Street Journal next to me for my use. He then showed me several tapes and asked me what type of music I would enjoy.

Well! I looked around for a "Candid Camera!" Wouldn't you? I could not believe the service I was receiving! I took the opportunity to say, "Obviously you take great pride in your work. You must have a story to tell."
"You bet," he replied, "I used to be in Corporate America. But I got tired of thinking my best would never be good enough. I decided to find my niche in life where I could feel proud of being the best I could be.

I knew I would never be a rocket scientist, but I love driving cars, being of service and feeling like I have done a full day's work and done it well. I evaluate my personal assets and... wham! I became a cab driver.

One thing I know for sure, to be good in my business I could simply just meet the expectations of my passengers. But, to be GREAT in my business, I have to EXCEED the customer's expectations! I like both the sound and the return of being 'great' better than just getting by on 'average'"

Did I tip him big time? You bet! Corporate America's loss is the traveling folk's friend!

Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed ~ Benjamin Franklin

Story from: www.inspireme.net

To be Poor...

2009-09-27T13:02:00.005-04:00

What does it mean to be poor?

We would think and say well, being poor is having no money, being hungry, being naked and homeless. Yes, that's one aspect but in actuality, being poor is much deeper than that. It is being unwanted, uncared for, unloved. See, poverty not only describes ones financial situation but one's situation as a whole. It is everyone's problem. It transcends every line you can think of; age, race, religion, geography. It doesn't care whether you are black, white, rich, middle-class...
Next time, before being quick to use the word "poor" to describe a financial state or situation, think about what being poor really is.
So care a little more, love a little more and share the wealth!

A man isn't poor if he can still laugh ~ R. Hitchcock

Relationships! The Tug of War

2009-09-20T12:47:00.007-04:00

"It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others. ~ Sydney J. Harris

Ever wonder why relationships are ALWAYS so challenging?

Relationships are such a challenge because life often pulls us in opposite directions all at the same time. Imagine a game of tug of war. There are two teams, as there are in relationships. Once the game begins its a constant battle of pulling, tugging and taking. Each one wanting to be the winner. And so it is in relationships, pulling and taking to be the winner. It is a challenge because our personality feels the need to be unique and special and so our focus often lies on how we are different from others. It is our differences that hold the potential to create conflict. However, the challenge in relationships is to rise above our differences and personal preferences to discover how we and the other are the same.

Our overall need lies in balancing these two tendencies!

Remember, the purpose of relationships is not happiness, but transformation.

Follow your heart - your Intuition.

2009-09-13T11:00:00.002-04:00

"If doubt is challenging you and you do not act, doubts will grow. Challenge the doubts with action and YOU will grow. Doubt and action are incompatible. ~John Kanary~

To reap the greatest benefits from intuition, we need ACTION. Listen to and follow your heart and never doubt yourself. Act as if your highest expectations have already happened, that you have already gotten what you wanted. Be in front of more people and opportunities. Let go of any blocks or attachments that you might have that may hinder you. Create mental and physical space - Now GO FOR IT!

Keep in mind that miracles rarely happen by doing nothing and that most miracles happen through other people.

Take action! What actions will you take that will move you towards your goals? Think about it.